Fimela.com, Jakarta Sahabat Fimela, pernah merasa pasangan seperti menyembunyikan sesuatu, meski sebenarnya tidak sampai selingkuh? Ada gestur kecil yang bikin hati jadi tak nyaman, misalnya masih sering stalking mantan, diam-diam chatting akrab, atau memberi perhatian berlebihan ke orang lain. Fenomena ini sering disebut micro cheating, hal-hal kecil yang tampaknya sepele, tapi bisa memicu keretakan dalam hubungan kalau dibiarkan begitu saja.
Lalu, apa saja tanda-tanda dari micro cheating? Dilansir dari Choosing Therapy (19/8), berikut tanda-tanda yang dapat diwaspadai:
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1. Banyak Menyimpan Rahasia
Mulai dari menyembunyikan pesan, menghapus chat, hingga menutup laptop tiba-tiba saat pasangan datang. Privasi itu wajar, tapi jika berlebihan bisa jadi tanda adanya sesuatu yang disembunyikan.
2. Sering Terlihat Tidak Fokus
Pasangan tampak sibuk dengan ponselnya, sulit hadir penuh saat kencan, atau terlihat cuek ketika diajak bicara serius. Perhatian yang terbagi ini bisa mengindikasikan ada orang lain yang menyita pikirannya.
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3. Melewati Batas yang Disepakati
Misalnya tetap berhubungan dengan mantan meski pasangan merasa tidak nyaman, atau terus memberi “like” pada konten yang bersifat menggoda di media sosial. Hal ini menunjukkan adanya pelanggaran batas, baik tersirat maupun jelas.
4. Sikap Defensif Berlebihan
Ketika ditanya soal perilaku mencurigakan, mereka langsung menolak, menyalahkan balik, atau memberi alasan berlebihan. Sikap defensif ini sering kali menjadi tameng untuk menutupi kesalahan.
Micro cheating bisa saja terlihat ringan, tapi jika dibiarkan dapat merusak kepercayaan dan kedekatan dalam hubungan. Menjaga komunikasi yang terbuka dan jujur dengan pasangan menjadi kunci agar hal-hal kecil tidak berkembang menjadi masalah besar.

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